Dreams can come true – I mean it!


If you can dream it, you can have it.

In my post called “What a Difference a Year Makes” I referenced six things that summed up my last crazy yet amazing year. “Dreams can come true- I mean it” is the first of series. 

It truly is amazing, how much can change in a single year. We can hope that it all nets out to be positive or we can actually take action and make thing happen. I actually started the year letting things happen. I was going along day to day as if on auto pilot – not loving my job, feeling stuck and not knowing how to move on. I mean, let’s face it, with kids, bills and responsibilities, many of us are taught to do what you have to do even if it may suck! Right?

I decided it was time to put my mind to action and think positively. I read every book I could find about positive thinking, recited every mantra and most importantly, I believed things would change. And change they did. Within a couple months, I lost my job which most may think is awful but it was a blessing! At the same time my husband secured a new job with benefits that kicked in almost to the day of losing mine. Phewwww! I decided this was my chance to do what I wanted to do all my life – to be an actress.

Since I was 3 years old, I knew this is what I wanted to do. I took acting lessons as a kid and in college but I was taught to always take the safe bet and that going to school and getting a “good paying” job was more important. (More important to who?!) So I did just that. I received a BS in Finance and then an MBA in Marketing. I did make good money but guess what? I was not remotely happy. The acting bug always reared its ugly head but I usually had an excuse to push it back down – money, kids etc.

But when I got laid off last year, I knew I ran out of excuses and regardless of how old I was, I was going to do this! And I did. I got head shots done, enrolled in acting classes and started to put myself out there. It has been a fantastic ride. I have been on television, in films, a commercial, print and continue to book jobs. While I am still working my way through it all, I can say that I am 100% comfortable on camera and actually have been very fortunate to date. “Am I a huge Hollywood star”, you ask? Not YET. Stay tuned.

I continue to practice positive thinking everyday and I can tell you that it truly works for me. I am happy. I have accomplished a lot and I continue to make goals and achieve them. I can also tell you that I will NEVER work in corporate America again. I tell my kids all the time, that I demand one thing: That they go to school for something they love and that they can have anything they put their mind to. If you love what you do, the money WILL come.

If you have a dream not matter how big, it can be a reality. Don’t give up on it.

Dream it, believe it and go for it. Why not?


A Survival Guide to Sarcasm; 6 Killer Comments You’ll Want to Live Without

Happiness Depends 6 Killer Comments

I come from a long line of sarcastic people. From my 92 year old grandmother right down to my 12 and 4 year old girls. We all have a quick wit, sharp tongues and the comments for better or worse, fly. What I’ve noticed, though, is that while sarcasm is part of our genetic make up, comments that we all make can be annoying, uncalled for and hardly ever positive.

Here is a helpful guide and a little insight into some different types comments:

1. Under-the-breath comment – Probably the most frustrating and comes usually from my 12 year old. It’s typically followed by me yelling, “What did you just say?!” and gets the usually snotty reply “Nothing!” What’s most annoying is that if you took the time to say it, SPEAK UP!

2. Last Word comment – “It’s going to rain today.”, “No it’s not”, “Yes it is”, “We’ll see”, “Yeah we will”, and so on and so on. Need I say more?!

3. Piss You Off comment– These can be fun when you are the instigator but not when your on the receiving end. Similar to the last word, they are the extra dings a person gives that really are unnecessary. A great example is when my grandmother told my husband that she thought he was actually much older! Ouch.

4. Know It All comment – We all know that person who has done it all, had it worse and knows more about that subject than anyone. The best way I can describe that is my husbands description of a friend who falls into this category. He says that if he said his balls hurts she would tell him hers hurts more. Enough said.

5. F-U comment (aka the quick hit)– Probably the most short and sweet of the list. The F-U comment it great to get your point across and knock ‘me to their knees. It’s often combined with the Piss You Off comment.

6. Complimentary comment– This is the most elusive and least used. These stand out because they are few and far between which probably makes them so special. They are a needed addition especially with the ongoing barrage of the other types of comments.

Every one of the aforementioned comments have their own place and are all needed at one time or another. However I recommend that you use them wisely because they can be deadly – especially if the person on the receiving end is as sarcastic as you are!

Tell us which comment you love or loathe the most.

My Kid is Bilingual: She Speaks Both English and Crazy.

Kids do say the darnedest things and mine is no exception. Forget about the sporadic and untimely outburst about the person next to us. I am talking about the things they come out with in their own words. And when I say “their own” I mean that they seem to have their own language completely.

Here are a few of my daughters latest entries into Bella’s Dictionary if 4-year-old-isms and their English translation:

Koy boy hat – cowboy hat
Jimamams – pajamas
Ear bones – ear lobes
A and p – teepee
Sprinkles – pins and needles
Spicy butt – unknown

By the time she is 6 we should be able to start a blog in this new and interesting vernacular.

Please share words from your kid’s language.


“Sometimes making memories is more important than the act itself” – Happiness Depends

I make it a point to do things with my kids for them to remember when they are older. For better or for worse, I want to be etched into their little heads forever.

Saturday Morning Torture

Whoever said that weekends are for rest never had kids! I actually torture myself because I signed up my littlest one for 9am gymnastics a couple towns away. I am not a martyr but I have not sleep past 8:30am in forever.

So here I sit “watching” the class clutching my Dunkin’ Donuts pumpkin coffee as if it was the holy grail.

Well maybe she will graduate to the 10am class! One can only hope.

Broiled Salmon with a Side of Stress

It’s Friday night so we decided to try a new restaurant that we heard about. It was a really nice bustling Italian place. Ahhh  – a romantic dinner with my husband and our cranky ass 4 year old daughter. Did I say romantic? Scratch that.

Bella may mean beautiful but tonight our little Bella was less than cute. Whether it was low blood sugar, an oncoming cold or just sheer crankiness, I contemplated leaving more than once and secretly longed to eat a Lean Cuisine at home by myself. After dropping each toy on the floor 15 times and disapproving of the Crayon selection, the waiter came over with the bread basket. It was as if the clouds parted and the heavens shined through. From that point on, we actually wound up having a nice dinner and I actually got to enjoy my amazing broiled salmon. I guess parents aren’t the only ones who are exhausted after a long week.

She’s sleeping now and I can finally relax. TGIF


Welcome to Happiness Depends!

I was thinking about what I should name this blog… Jersey Mom (too much Jersey going on), Apparent Parent (taken), Momma All the Way (nah). So I really racked my brain as to how I feel.

  • I am a mom
  • I have good days and bad days
  • I love my kids but they can drive me crazy
  • I work full time and enjoy what I do
  • I am happily married (most days)
  • I try to balance everything with a smile on my face

All true but in the end I netted out that I just want to be happy. And that all depends!

It depends on the weather, if we got out of the door on time, the amount of caffeine pumping through my veins and a million other factors that change by the minute!

So I came up with the title – “Happiness Depends

I hope you enjoy my journey!